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Hello, I need some advice. Thanks
Click to Reveal AnswerHi
We can hear that you are in a difficult situation, where you love your partner, but because she has starting smoking weed, you feel that this relationship is no longer a healthy place for you to be. You seem very clear in your head that you love her, and that you have tried talking to her about the breakdown in communication. Because you are living together it feels like it is a permanent set up, and harder to negotiate.
You have to decide what it is you want and need from the relationship and what your boundaries are. If you can't communicate and she wishes to continue useing weed, then what is it you want? You have to look at your feelings and needs. You can't change her behavior but you have responsibility for your own feelings and actions. You may want her to give up weed, but what if she doesn't want to. Can you live with that, or do you need to change things (finish the relationship, live separately, live with it??)
We would definately suggest that you try having that conversation again. Maybe spend some time thinking through some stuff and make the space. Say that you need to have a serious conversation about what you both want / need from the relationship. Hopefully she will engage, but if not you maybe need to be looking at suggesting a better, healthier way to live.
It's easy to get caught up in a life, when it might not be the right one. If you are living together then it makes it super hard. You both need to think about and decide what you want. Don't leave it until everyone is unhappy and you can't salvage even the friendship. It sounds as if you have been good for each other and that the relationship has been good, and you shouldn't loose sight of this.
You could also consider couple counselling & you can find out more HERE
We hope this has helped you, please come back if you need more support or just an ear to listen to you.
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I tried to stop smoking and I failed I’m even more gutted i did it for 6 dayd and got a little stressed and ended up buying a packet had one and totally regret it I feel so pathetic i can’t believe I got a little stressed n bought fags I’m planning on throwing them away.’how do I stop myself from doing this I want to stop. I swear I’m never buying them again this is pathetic and so am I. What method should I try because I’m not smoking again I’m so angry at myself
Click to Reveal AnswerHi
That sounds really frustrating, and you will not be the first to give into cravings for nicotine. It's a very very addictive substance and alot of money & marketing goes into getting people addicted.
You are halfway there, you want to quit, and you recognise it is an addiction. You can get support to quit through pharmacies and your GP. There are nicotine replacement products that can aid the journey and support as well.
Have a look at the link HERE for more information & chuck that packet away!!
Look for something to distract you - a stress ball or something physical you can play with. have soome sugar free gum ready too. Be prepared.
Good luck.
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Hi so I’m on day 2 of not smoking and I’m surprised at how okay I feel. I’m definitely not going back. But I do kinda feel a little emotional like I’m sad, I do really miss having a cigarette but I know I can’t anymore, money wise, health wise ect. When will the emotional side stop? I don’t want to feel sad about stopping smoking but I do I just feel quite sad and I don’t want too.
Click to Reveal AnswerHi there,
Firstly well done on managing to not smoke for the past 2 days. It sounds like you're really determined to stop. You'll start to notice lots of changes as you get used to living without cigarettes. Your body will be withdrawing from nicotine which can leave you feeling a bit teary and not yourself. This is totally normal. Like any addiction you've also lost a big part of your life, even if it was something that you really wanted to get rid of. Any change can take a while to process.
There is no set rule about how long you might feel like this but these feelings usually start quite quickly after stopping and could hang around for a few weeks.
Try to remind yourself that this is part of your journey towards becoming a non-smoker and that it will start to get better. Taking some exercise, getting some fresh air or distracting yourself with a book or a bath might help you when your feel sad. Try to eat well as this can also improve your mood and help you to feel stronger. You may start to feel hungrier so pick healthy snacks like tomatoes or fruit.
You may also find this link helpful (CLICK HERE)
Good luck and well done again, please come back to us at any time if you need to.
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Smoking
I’d really like to stop smoking, I’m just sick of wasting money on it now, not to mention the smell and my health, I’m not sure how to do this though I don’t want to vape because I think that’s just as harmful, I’m thinking of getting patches on Monday can you give me any advice on them? Thank you
Click to Reveal AnswerHi
It's great that you want to stop smoking, and the first step is to get support to do this. You are much more likely to succeed if you do this.
You can get support from pharmamcy and also your GP, and they will be able to advise you on patches and support and other ways to quit. It's not an easy journey but one that is worthwhile.
There is more information HERE
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P0ppy s33d
I am supposed to be taking drugs this weekend and am unsure as to the risks as it is mdma but just to reassure myself I bought a testing kit and it’s currently saying it’s pure I have been told its risks are blown out of proportion by anti drug campaigns yet the drugs only risk in this scenario is if I don’t hydrate myself which I will definitely do and keep cool just wondering if I am safe to take it or not
Click to Reveal AnswerHi,
Thank you for contacting Cool2Talk.
We here that you are planning to take drugs this weekend, specifically MDMA. It sounds like you are trying to take the drug as safely as possible by researching it and using a testing kit to make sure the drug is what it is supposed to be. Taking drugs is a very individual experience and no two people will get the same reaction, we are unable to say if you would be safe or not.
Click here to have a look at Cool2Talks page on drugs and keeping safe. You can also Click Here to have a look at FRANK's page on Ecstasy.
Remember that it is illegal to possess and sell drugs and MDMA is a class A drug. If you have drugs on you and the police find them it could result in a formal caution, arrest and/or prosecution.
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